A Jew, a Puerto Rican and a Buddist Monk Walk Into a Salad Bar….

and order the same thing.  A falafel salad.

Then went to see Dawn of the Planet of the Apes because it’s sci fi and the monk loves his sci fi and I didn’t want to see Earth to Echo though after seeing DOTPOTA, I’m not so sure I made the right choice. DOTPOTA had your bad apes, your dumb drunk idiots, your good guys and one good girl, your one really good hearted ape, guns, shooting, swinging through trees, chimps wearing jewelry, and San Francisco in ruins. In 3 D.  Wear protective ear wear if you go see it.

After that we went to the Denver Botanical Garden which is probably the prettiest Botanical Garden I’ve ever been to. There was/is a Dale Chihuly exhibit which was surprising and beautiful. I’m not a big fan of glass art but I’m a big fan of gardens and his work adds a playful magic to this garden.

There’s more of this madness on my Instagram if you’re so inclined.

Denver is where Joyce lives and where we have been staying. She lives in a wonderful old apartment complete with milk chute (!) and  filled with collections of art everywhere your eye lands.  She’s fun and funny and gracious. I feel so lucky and grateful to be here.

I will be leaving tomorrow, heading back home on my own while the Monk flies back to NY.  I am missing my little gang and looking forward to smushing baby cheeks.

The days are running together so fast I have to stop and really focus to remember what day it is and where we were yesterday or two days ago.

This morning we are at the Great Sand Dunes National Park right at the foot of the Rocky Mountains, just off the Cosmic Highway. Though the Monk has given it his best shot, the aliens have not seen fit to take him at this time.

Last night we hiked down to the creek at the base of the Dunes to watch as the sunset painted the sky and dunes all shades of pinks and blues and grays. It was glorious. Being elderly, tired and ill prepared, we didn’t venture up and into the Dunes but there were plenty of people heading up and disappearing into the dark. We didn’t see anyone come out. The Monk thought maybe there was a giant toad on the other side of the Dunes flicking them up into his mouth with his sticky tongue.

Yesterday we drove up to Crestone a small town right at the foot of the Mountains.  One road into the town and out. I felt like I was in a Twilight Zone episode with a really good restaurant called Bliss. There were some interesting  looking characters wandering around.  One reason I wanted to go there was because of the amazing patchwork like rocks I’d seen at Tizia and Paul’s labyrinth in Taos. They’re known as conglomerates and I found one right on the street in town. I also discovered there are about 30 spiritual retreat centers in and around the town. You can come and get so spiritually creamy you probably wouldn’t even notice winter settling in or you would and you would love it. I am pretty sure I would not.

Joyce, a friend of the Monk’s has now joined the party and it’s been great fun being with her.  She has a place in Denver and that’s where we are heading today. I’ll stay a few days there with them and then start my journey home. I am missing those babies and Mr Weepy.

So we made it out of Gallup alive and intact, drove to Albuquerque for a quick coffee and a morning bun and drove on to Santa Fe for lunch. It was early and we thought we could power through and make it to Alamosa, CO by nightfall but I wanted to stop in and at least say hello to an old friend who lives in Taos. 
The drive up from Santa Fe to Taos follows the Rio Grande Gorge, a breathtaking drive. It now ties with Highway 1 Big Sur coast drive for most spectacular drive I’ve ever taken.
My friends live just outside of Taos proper in the most beautiful valley I have ever seen. Down a dirt road, surrounded by mountains, not far from the River they built an Earth Ship house. Part of the house is built into the earth with cans and skinned in adobe, completely off the grid. The house stays cool in summer and warm in winter. He built this with his own hands by himself and it is an amazing work of art. Welcoming and serene, I felt I had dropped into another world.
They are both artists, he is a photographer and she is a painter and healer. They do retreats for Ayurvedic and other therapies.  See here.
That’s Lobo lounging on the sofa and Paul’s book Taos Portraits on the table. A gorgeous book of his photos. See here.
We stayed the night in a beautiful airstream on the property and this morning we all sat meditation before we hit the road. This is me. Restored, renewed, refreshed and grateful. 

I have seen some outstanding sunsets where I live and in Hawaii but last night’s was beyond any I’ve seen before. No camera I have could capture the colors in that sky. The wind suddenly whipped up and my hands were shaking so badly the photo is a bit blurry but here it is anyway. That’s a labyrinth to the right and in front of where the monk sat hoping to be beamed up by aliens.

Lucky for me, they didn’t see fit to take him last night. He makes for such a great traveling companion. Funny, awake and always ready with a story. He chanted almost all the way from Gallup to Taos.

My deepest Thanks and Gratitude to Tizia and Paul for being so welcoming and sharing their magical place with us. May their work and blessings continue and grow and may I be lucky enough to visit again.

Breakfast in Gallup

Meth head at breakfast buffet asks Monk if he likes staying here. Monk says yea it’s really nice but did you know that Gallup has the highest rate of alcoholism in the country? “That’s why we’re here, to address this scourge”, says the Monk.

We rolled into town late yesterday evening and started looking for a hotel. I don’t believe in making reservations. I want to see and feel whats the what before I commit and then I want to think it to death and have someone else make the decision and then second guess them and then go to sleep. It’s worked great so far, especially because the Monk loves making decisions based on some mathematical formula he devises on the spot.
Yesterday the decision was easy. The place we settled on had no cars in the parking lot and as we were rolling through I noticed three very unsavory looking characters walking towards the entrance of the hotel, one walking towards our car making some hand gesture.  I didn’t have to second guess myself on that decision, wondering if the poor man was only asking for food or directions, the Monk backed my play.

The Monk receives Buddhist icons from his congregation. When any congregant dies, their families bring them to the temple for the Monks to “release”.  You don’t just throw them away.  So the Monk is “releasing” them. He brought three or four with him and wants to leave one in each state. So yesterday while looking for and not finding the Grand Canyon, we released one (a beautiful Quan Yin) in some BLM land just outside Walnut Canyon National Park. There were cliff dwellings you could actually hike to! We didn’t, unfortunately,  but we did go to the museum and learned that these Indians did to their environment what we’re doing to ours. Depleting it until there is nothing left and then you have to leave and then you die.

That is not a gas can! It’s the bag he carried the Quan Yin in. He found a beautiful spot in a tree. She looked luminous gazing out at the forest. I couldn’t get a good picture of her.

We press on today to Taos.

Going to Hell

Fine dining in Arizona.

We arrived in Kingman, AZ late yesterday evening after a long day’s drive from LA.
Had a lovely breakfast with my gracious cousins and then hit the road. It’s the Monk’s first time in AZ and he is very attentive and appreciative of the landscape. All those endless miles of nothing but desert as far as your eye can see. I was road drunk when we finally sat down to a meal at the only place we could agree upon. Cracker Barrel.
OMG
I have never been to a Cracker Barrel and when we parked and saw all the rocking chairs on the wide porch the Monk remembered his last experience at a Cracker Barrel in North Carolina where he went with his Hindu Indian friend and a Christian friend of hers. After the meal the Christian friend confessed to feeling a deep sadness because the Monk and her Indian friend were going to burn in hell because neither of them had accepted Jesus Christ as their savior. The Indian friend asked her if all the Aids work the Monk did in Africa, all the hundreds of people he has saved and helped if that counted for nothing and the Christian friend said, nope, he’s still going to hell.
There you have it.
The Cracker Barrel. First off, everywhere I go with the Monk we get stared at as if we were the strangest things to crawl out of some hole anyone has ever seen. He’s 6 feet tall, 200 lbs give or take, and dressed in long gold robes. Mostly people just stare but occasionally some brave soul strikes up a conversation. Like yesterday while on line at a supermarket, the man behind us politely asked what religion he was. I like that.
Anyway, there wasn’t anyone gonna ask at the Cracker Barrel. I’ve never been anywhere so straight up and down white America before. I could feel every eye on us, a hush came over that cavernous place as we walked to our table.  And the food. Oh dear. We’ve been in LA where my cousin is a freakin’ gourmet cook genius and when they took us out it was to farm to table places where the waiter tells you your chickens name and his ancestry. At the Cracker Barrel I’m pretty sure they can give you the sell by dates on the cans if you ask nicely. The Monk was thrilled with all of it of course, especially when they served him an extra root beer float for serving the first one in a broken glass and then a free dessert for giving us the wrong bill. It was the first dessert I’ve ever seen him unable to finish. He says he’s becoming a pussy in his old age.

Looks like a pot pie with gravy and two mashed potato balls to me, but no, it’s apple and caramel and such with ice cream. He brought it back to the hotel and had some for pre-breakfast this morning.
We’re off again this morning, heading east as far as Albuquerque before heading north. Don’t know where we’ll land tonight but wherever it is, I’m voting for Mexican food.

All Happiness

And so it does. 
I’m in LA at my cousin’s house. The Monk is here also and this morning was “the brunch”. We all voted down IHOP, his preferred brunch spot. Instead we went to a sweet little cafe spot that served fresh and wonderful food and made us all happy.
We came home and everyone drifted into their own space. I sat and listened to my book and worked my knitting while the Monk watched a horror movie in his room and did his beading, my cousin watched the US get beat by Belgium in another room and I could hear my other cousin blowing his horn in his study.  We came together for a swim in the pool and a soak in the jacuzzi where we talked about movies and the Monk asked what we are doing to replenish the 25,000 breaths we take each day. He wants us to plant trees and make compost. 
My cousins are so gracious and elegant and serene. Their home is a sanctuary. A perfect place to begin our road trip.

It’s been one of those months. I’ll be happy to see the last of it. June conjures up sun and sprinklers over lush green lawns, gauzy summer dresses and refreshing beverages but the reality of June here is more gray wool, damp chilly winds and white skies. There are some blue skies scattered in between but for the most part…
It’s like that.
I’m looking forward to next month when I head east on a road trip with the Monk. Anything can happen.

French Fry Bush and Fat Baby

Here it is. The French Fry Bush. The Quan Yin is out of focus so you can’t see her smile. I don’t know that I would be smiling if I had to sit and smell french fries all day but, she is the Bodhisattva of Compassion. French Fries, toddlers, babies, dancing bulldogs, all are welcome and loved and held in her loving embrace.

The little white blossoms turn into red berries in the fall. Anyone know this bush?

I am road weary. I have traveled all of California looking for a vehicle. I have become a Craigslist Connoisseur.  I have come so close but one thing and then another, has blown the deal. I am starting to worry.  Time is running out. If I have to settle for something less than perfect, I won’t have much time to work on it before the Monk arrives at the end of June. I go between feeling the right one will present itself and feeling like I should just take the one in front of me now that is less than.

I don’t know.

I am taking the day off of looking. I spent the morning with the cute baby.  I had Pandora tuned to the Opera station and held him so he could gaze at the quilt that hangs on the wall and which makes his eyes go all bright and shiny. He stares and goes into a trance.  He’s grown quite large, he now has more than one chin, but look at how dapper he is!

He was so entranced by the music and the quilt that he let me finish my book, The Queen’s Gambit by Walter Tevis. I don’t remember where I got this title but wherever it was, I thank you.  A wonderful read.
And Thank You fat little baby!

Dances with French Fries

The French Fry bush is in full bloom. The wind blows through and scatters the tiny white blossoms on my head and arms and feet as I practice my yoga. Lu joined me this morning and did her yoga, a  s l o w dance around the perimeter of the deck, her back festooned with French Fry blossoms.

The lair is a holy place, that smells like french fries.

Not letting go yet

It’s 94 degrees and I’m drinking a nice hot cup of Gundpowder green tea. Since last we spoke, I have become a tea drinker. Still having my morning cup of Get Up And Go coffee but then it’s tea for the rest of the day. And not that weak sauce tea in a bag stuff. I’ve discovered the wonderful world of loose leaf teas sold in the bulk section of Foods for the Rich health food store. Special blend Earl Grey, Darjeeling, a white tea with lavender blossoms, a black tea with ginger and lemon. I have a beautiful iron tea pot with infuser I bought ages ago and never used and it survived The GreaT Purge because of it’s beauty and because it looked pretty in the window sill and there are some things, like the pig from a previous post and this little bear that tug at my heart in an undeniable way. These things won’t quit me. Or I them.

let it go – the
smashed word broken
open vow or
the oath cracked length
wise – let it go it
was sworn to 
go
let them go – the 
truthful liars and
the false fair friends
and the boths and
neithers – you must let them go they
were born 
to go
let all go -the
big small middling
tall bigger really
the biggest and all
things – let all go
dear
so comes love

e.e. cummings

Settling In

Here we all are. Settling in to life with baby. I’m happy to report that Mr Chips loves the new guy. He is tender and sweet with him, kissing and holding him and insisting he be close by at all times. Unfortunately the sweetness does not extend to everyone else. The zen baby is cool but everyone else must die!

This, like everything else will pass.

The sun finally showed up hot and shiny. We’re having a heat wave and that means it’s up in the high 80’s and we’re all sweaty and lethargic. I sold my beloved Viejo and am on the hunt for my next vehicle. I know! I can’t control me. My next adventure will be with the Monk. We will be driving to “sort out” his land somewhere in Colorado.

There is a wonderful story about one of his many projects here.

Namaste.

An Ordinary Miracle

Birth and death. It happens everyday. There is nothing extraordinary about it. It’s how we all get here and how we all shall take our leave one day. And yet. Witnessing the birth of my grand baby this afternoon was miraculous. Talk about being in THE MOMENT.  Weeping with joy holding my girl while she pushed her baby into the world with a laugh. She wept and chuckled him right out of her body. It was…miraculous.

Mother, Father and beautiful baby boy are all doing swell. Grandmother and big brother? We snuggled up on the sofa and watched tv until his little head slumped to one side and his breath became a quiet snuffle.

 What a day.

There is a soft warm halo around everything. The world feels fresh, the sky clean, the earth glimmering, my heart as swollen and tender with love as it has ever been. Welcome baby Ryland. Welcome to your life.

Waiting…

The dreary gray skies have opened and turned the clearest blue I’ve seen in weeks!  As blue as this Pride of Madera….

Blue skies and a chilly wind blowing in from the ocean.

This is the state of the weather in these parts.

Meanwhile we may have a baby to tend to in the next day or two.  I feel a little breathless just thinking about it. Don’t know how Mr Chips is going to like any of it, he’s quite used to being the BIG and ONLY boy king around the compound and he is NOT a tender little guy. I cannot imagine what he thinks when his “Mon” points to her belly and says “baby”.  Or what he will think when a little bundle of soft sweet baby brother is brought into the nest and he will have to share his “Mon’s” attention and affection. He will adjust of course. We all do. Somehow.

This morning I listened to this TED talk and have tried to embed the video here but blogger will not cooperate so I place instead the link…

here

It is a wonderful talk by the very charismatic Benjamin Zander.  His story at the end about the importance of what we say, the words that come out of our mouths, has been echoing in my ear all day. Go have a listen if you have a spare 20 minutes.

Pig, Cow and Three Unripe Pears

It is, and has been, relentlessly gray and cool and I am ready for some blue sky and warm sun and ripe pears. The stupid SUPER market here in town doesn’t have ripe pears. Ever.

I wait.

Tiny living fits me. We are still in the process of building……..moving………purging. My daughter is about to deliver her baby into the light of this world and she is nesting like a BIG mama magpie. We are going through a lifetime’s worth of stuff. Discovering things like the plastic light up stars that we used to create constellations on the ceiling of her room when she was a child. A room her child is now sleeping in.

While I have been ruthlessly donating most of the stuff I have found, there are some things, silly things I can’t part with. The pig on the window sill, for example.

The pig stays.

New Address

I’m not fooling around this time.  Seriously. I got rid of more than half my clothes AND I’m not done yet. I am considering a uniform, religious garb of some kind. Once I get my religion right. I’m still working on that. I will have three or four “sets”. One on, one off, one in the wash and an extra for emergencies.
Stay tuned.
We moved from our little house (900 + square feet) to a tinier “house” ( 210 square feet).  What I didn’t give to the Goodwill I gave to my daughter who now lives in the “big” house with her family. Everyone is happier with this arrangement. Tearful built us a loft bed and is building us a bath house and dressing room area. He’s amazing once he gets going. Says he doesn’t know how to build things yet he has been building things for years. Including our new home. I’ll say something like, “we need a …” and he will almost always say it can’t be done and then he goes and does it. Just like that.
So, living small. It works beautifully. Everything has a place and there are no unnecessary things. I’m loving it. It makes me feel…calm.

Though it is a work in progress, here is the kitchen as it was a few days ago. We are still tweaking things. 
That’s the groovy loft bed above.
this morning.
It’s quiet and the light in here is always beautiful. The Japanese maple right in front of those doors is just starting to put out fresh leaves and the roses are blooming.  There is a break in the rain just now so I’ll scoot out and run my errands and hurry back to watch the rain when it comes again.
Namaste